In addition, the nature of the activities and the perceptions of the society also contribute to the downfalls or success of people indulging on this otherwise secretive career and pleasure business. It is estimates that over 40 million Americans have taken part or tried online dating and this has seen a collective gross amount of $2 billion in the year 2012. So what are the advantages of dating online?
- It provides a large pool of partners from, which you can choose your partners. The growing number of people seeking for romance, sex, and affections online has grown tri-fold and this means that there are a large number of eligible partners to select from.
- Online dating increases the chances of getting people of same social affiliation, likes and dislikes, preferences, common thinking, and also common dating goal. People date for various reasons and while some may date partners for friendship, others are seeking for long term relationships that may be transformed into marriages. Other people are seeking for sexual pleasure, which they do not get from their partners.
- Dating through the internet can provide an income for some people. People taking up escort services do this for money. Strippers on the other hand can be hired on private arrangement to provide nudity teases to their clients. Single moms better known as single mama are dating young men who are in need of economic support in return of love and affection to the lonely women. Similarly, young girls are dating papa or single dads in exchange for money and love.
- Online dating seems to be more confidential since it does not require you to make frequent visits to familiarize each other because this can be done right from the internet. People feel that they have social privacy or security because they are not seen mingling in dating pubs or joints with people twice as old or as young their age.
- Another online dating advantage is that it is cost effective and you do not have to spend a lot of money before you get the right match of your dating.
- Online dating can help you get a long term partner for marriage or satisfy your sexual needs and this lead to psychological wellbeing. It can create pleasure and enjoyment leading to a better mental wellness and life fulfilment. People can relieve stress and other ill feelings by pairing through an online dating site where they discuss issues, make love or simply hang out together for social enjoyment. It does not necessarily have to be a sexual or love affair.
- Online dating can bring together social assimilation where different people from different social backgrounds get to share their values and try to assimilate them.
Having discussed the online dating advantages, there are also the dark side of these activities. Although there are legitimate online dating sites, many of them are out to exploit the desperately looking people who are seeking for companionship. There are many online dating disadvantages ranging from insecurity, exploitation, abuse, sexual molestations, sexual addictions, failed marriages, lack of desire for long term relationship commitment, to social denial. If you are not careful, you may end up is very difficult situation. Below are some of the online dating disadvantages;
- It can lead to harvesting of your confidential information by dating scammers especially if you register with illegitimate website. There are so many websites that offer adult online dating services and some of them are out to steal clients’ information and use it otherwise. Because in some sites you will be required to pay some upfront fees to be matched quickly with a ready partner, it means that you may end up giving your details to the wrong people including your credit card.
- People dating online are likely to give the wrong information or cheat about their age and look. This means that you are likely to find yourself relating with a partner not of the matching type you were looking for.
- You may fall prey of criminals, predators, stalkers, felons and other personalities who are out for ill intentions such as rape, assault, or even murder. You must be very careful if you are dating a person you do not know online. The sweet talks and chats may turn out to be tears of pain and anguish as you are subjected to sexual molestations and even physical aggression with no apparent reason.
- You may be exposed to use of drugs when you meet partners you have interacted online because you do not know their backgrounds. You need to ensure that you screen your partner and avoid first-time give-ins and visits to undisclosed locations. If you are meeting a partner you met online, you should tell your family where and when you will be meeting for security reasons.
- When married couples turn to online dating, this can contribute to the deterioration of a marriage relationship as partners seek for fresh, new, adoring, and pleasurable joys from new partners. This ultimately leads to lack of affection and love within a marriage, something that may culminate to divorce and separation.
- In addition, you may become addicted to online dating, which may be costly for you as you spend money meeting partners either for sexual desire or companionship. Because there is abundance of partners to meet, you are likely to denounce any current relationship and seek for another. The thinking that there is infinite possibility in getting a better partner compels you to keep on searching one after the other.
- It encourages distance relations, which at times do not work because the partners never have the chance or opportunity to meet each other due to geographical barriers that are coupled with financial setbacks. If you cannot physically travel to meet each other and you only date online, it means that there is no physical connection something that may not make the relationship complete.
- Online dating can lead to defamation and damage on your reputation when things turn haywire and you are caught in cameras and exposed to the public domain. Many professionals like lawyers, politicians, company CEOs and others have tainted their reputation after their acts of sexual intimidations are revealed to the public. These behaviours originate from online dating that turns sour.
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